Fix the gauge over-request issue #9987 and #10486

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Address the over-request issue in #9987 and #10486 . It fixes:

• targetInv == null could caused by block entity update, which may lost all stored item data for one tick if block get updated
• submit arrival runs on both side, which cause double arrival in single player game
• use container's ItemStack as InventorySummary's key reference without make copy